Is Demisexuality Just A Word For People Who “Don’t Do Hookups”?
Recently on Twitter, a response to a Tiktok video about asexuality went viral. In the TikTok video, user Mikaela Happas danced with some text, a popular format on the app for sharing ideas and content. The text explained to the viewer that Mikaela is demisexual, meaning she only has sexual attraction after an emotional bond is formed.
This is not the part that started trending, however; what started trending was a response to her video in which, Twitter user eighth grade said, “I’m never forgiving Tumblr for creating an entire sexuality for people who simply don’t do hookups.”
The debate exploded, with many agreeing with this user, saying that asexuality is just about not liking sex or being depressed, that demisexuals aren’t real, that demisexuals aren’t queer but asexuals are, that demisexual is another word for straight, and so on.
As a demisexual myself, I decided to respond.
Demisexuality is not just a term for people who don’t like hookups or one night stands. It is a real sexuality.
First, I would like to address the criticism that demisexual was “created” on Tumblr.
