Being Ace and M-Spec: An Exploration

Elle Rose
17 min readSep 28, 2022
A background of green grass dotted with small white flowers. In the center is a dark green, slightly transparent circle. White text reads: Being Ace and M-Spec: An Exploration, by Elle Rose AKA scretladyspider.
A background of green grass dotted with small white flowers. In the center is a dark green, slightly transparent circle. White text reads: Being Ace and M-Spec: An Exploration, by Elle Rose AKA scretladyspider.

Pansexuality and bisexuality. Biromantic vs Panromantic. Omnisexual vs polysexual. Panromantic, polyromantic, biromantic and omniromantic. There are a lot of different ways to discuss and label multiple attraction spectrum, or m-spec, attraction. And, when an ace’s romantic attraction spans multiple genders, these labels can be used in conjunction with persons under the asexuality spectrum.

For many people, when they say “I’m bi,” it’s safe to assume that person is both romantically and sexually attracted to two or more genders.

But what about when sexual and romantic attractions don’t line up? What about when you’re asexual, but you have romantic attraction to multiple genders?

Today, we’re going to take a look at what it means to be m-spec (that is to say bi, pan, omni, or poly) and also ace (short for asexual), in honor of Bi Awareness Week. I will only be speaking on and drawing from ace experiences regarding this, as I am not aromantic, and believe that discussions on aromanticism should by lead by aro persons. Where relevant, terms related to aromanticism will be explained or included.

First, let’s talk some labels.

Asexual — a spectrum of little to no sexual attraction; an umbrella term referring to multiple experiences of little to no sexual…

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Elle Rose

queer. demisexual. ADHD. disabled. writer. YouTuber. shy but chaotic. they/she. contact: secretladyspider@gmail.com