I hope that telling my story here — a story that is not straightforward, full of strange twists and turns and shame and pride alike — will speak to you today. When I put out a poll recently on twitter asking if I should write my journey of discovering my…

The most common response I get when I explain to someone that I’m demisexual is that I’m just normal and looking for a special word for my sexuality. I’ll explain as painstakingly as I can that I don’t have sexual attraction unless a close bond forms, and that I don’t…

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Here’s a little fun fact about me: I love winter.
I mean it. I’m that person who gets excited when they see snow falling on the ground and always tries to eat some, even though I’m almost thirty. I love the crunch of wet snow under my boots and the…

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When I was younger, I felt like everyone was going to some sort of party I wasn’t invited to when it came to sexual attraction. Everyone around me going through puberty suddenly seemed to know all these things about their bodies and about how bodies worked, and I was sitting…

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I wish that I had had demisexual representation in the media growing up.

It feels like so many people I know who are queer had an “aha, that’s what I am moment!” while watching television. They had already been wondering what the name for their experience was when Maureen said…

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Demisexual. The word was invented on AVEN forums in 2006. It was discussed after some people brought it sometimes feeling sexual attraction, or feeling it under a specific circumstance. Over time, more words have been invented to discuss existing between the space of allosexual and asexual, describing different specific experiences…

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I am more than my sex life.

So, so much more.

Asexuality and sex. Asexuality and if aces have sex. Asexuality and a sex drive, the spectrum of asexuality, the spectrum of different attitudes on sex… these are all important topics. I’ve written a lot about them already. I was…

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Sexual orientation and behavior take a lot of different shapes and colors in human beings. We are spectrums upon spectrums, colors out of space that shift from beautiful yellows into blues and greens and purples, rarely just one way or another, often defying the rules and definitions we have laid…

Elle Rose

I am a 28 year old writer and educator for demisexuality and the asexual spectrum. scretladyspider on Instagram, Twitter, and Patreon too

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